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Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Happy National Single Parents' Day!

As a child of divorce, I was raised by a single mother. I was blessed that my dad was around as much as possible, but the one who does the daily grind always faces challenging times. As a former social worker, I know all too well the struggle and problems that some single parents encounter. It can be physically, mentally and financially draining, yet very rewarding.

Congratulations to all who are hanging in there on the crazy, wonderful journey that single parenting is!

This week's March Madness Mad Diva Giveaway will have up to three winners and is dedicated to you!

March Madness Mad Diva Giveaway: Single Parents Day Edition


Monday, March 13, 2017

March Madness:Mad Diva Monday




It's that time of year! Time for the NCAA Men's Basketball tournament and March Madness is in full effect. I am super excited that all of my teams are represented. My favorite team of all, University of North Carolina, is a #1 seed. My alma mater, UNC-Greensboro is playing and my parents' school, North Carolina Central University, is doing big things and is also scheduled to play. I am celebrating them and you by holding giveaways all this month.This week you can visit my author page on Facebook through the link below for a chance to win a iBook copy of my bestselling anthology, Single Mama Dating Drama. Good luck and I hope you enjoy!

Sunday, September 11, 2016

THE FIFTEENTH SEPTEMBER


September is a bittersweet month for me. It is filled with celebrations of life as there are multiple Virgos in my immediate family, including myself and my mom, but it has also become a time of remembering death. Fifteen years ago, on September 11, 2001, I was staring out of the window at University of North Carolina Hospitals. My birthday was the next day, but it was overshadowed with wondering how I would survive the 12 hours days with my full-time internship in the psychiatric ward and my part-time job in admissions at night. Not physically, but mentally. It was the first time I'd been back there since my dad’s sudden cardiac death four years earlier in September of 1997, just a few days before he would have some time off and could celebrate a belated birthday lunch he had promised me. Ironically, I saw him in passing traffic as I sped to work just hours before his death and we waved and smiled. He pointed his finger like I was busted for driving too fast and I couldn’t wait to meet up again and laugh about it, but that was not to be. I was called out of work and told to rush to home that afternoon. Mom was waiting there to drive me to the hospital and would only say that my dad had been admitted. When we arrived, the staff who knew him had looks of pity on the path to the room where the doctor tried to explain to me that Dad was gone. He not only died there, but had worked there for over 20 years. It was a hard day for many of his colleagues and I cannot fathom how they felt being there over the weeks that followed. Since he worked the night shift, I often had to drop by there to be able to see him at all, so that place had always been a big part of my life.

Being back there again was hard. His memory was in every nook and cranny, as I used to walk around with him on his safety checks of the building at times and I had avoided dealing with the reality of him being gone, but here it haunted me and it was all I could think about. On this particular day, those thoughts were shook by death of a different kind. The television hanging on the wall was blaring with.reports of death of an unimaginable magnitude. America was under attack and my day had just become even harder, but then I realized it was no longer just about me. September had forever become a time of grief for my entire country. Even in times of political and racial division, September still brings our hearts and minds together, if just for one moment of silence when the bell tolls. As the fifteenth September 11th since 2001 comes to a close, I pray that closure will come in more ways than one and that it will transition from a time of mourning to a time of dancing. Celebrating that we were once privileged to know those souls that we lost. Remembering the lives once abundant and asking "O Death, where is your sting...?".

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

IT TAKES A VILLAGE




Most of the people who have been with me on my artistic journey are not biological family or even friends who I grew up with. For the most part, they were strangers, until a common interest brought us in a room together, somewhere in time. Then, something beautiful happened. Some of us kept tabs on each other and we became a village. One such stranger was @kismuth. We both attended an open mic at the library one day and we shared stories and poems, we laughed, we cried, we hugged. We exchanged social media information and somewhere in cyberspace, I discovered that we had a lot more in common. Our hometown, our first books in 2012 and even the YMCA where I saw her again. Our lives have remained on eerily similar paths. We have both been exploring. While I was traveling the U.S. East Coast, she was on a voyage to the Eastern hemisphere of the world. Now, we both have new works being published in September of this year. Mine is an anthology of short stories with my Brown Girls Books family and hers is a book appropriately titled, The Village Report. Join us tonight as we chat about it on Twitter, along with some other friends she has met along the way. Perhaps you, too, will become a part of the village. Hope to see you there!








#villagereport
Twitter 9 p.m.
August 17, 2016

Saturday, April 23, 2016

Purple Reign





Woke up with you on mind

Watched the angels flying by

Painting purple in the sky



I haven't written much lately. My two-year-old has assured it. I'm a night owl by nature, but she often awakens me before the sun. At least I get to see the sunrise, albeit with one eye open. The colors are amazing. I've seen a lot of Cotton Candy and Carolina Blue, but yesterday before I even looked outside, I caught glimpse of a purple hue over Washington Nationals Park between the blinds. I rubbed my eyes, thinking I was dreaming of Prince since the media is flooded with his favorite color, in memoriam. Nope, still purple. On top of that, the clouds looked like angels flying over and Prince's hometown Minnesota Twins were in town. Awesome.  

I came of age during the 'Purple Reign' when Prince dominated radio, stage and screen. He was one of my first artistic inspirations. My friends and I memorized his dance routines and internalized his lyrics about life, love and loss.Thirty years later he was still going strong as a musical genius, songwriter, champion for artists' rights and humanitarian.  No wonder the world is adorned in purple right now. How befitting that the heavens felt obliged to do the same. Rest in peace, Sweet Prince.

A Diva's Heart

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Cover Story


When I wrote The Divorcée Chronicles: Diary of a Divorcée Diva , I was completely focused on the story.  I never even considered the cover. Once I needed it, I put a lot of thought into the picture, but had no idea how I wanted to frame it. So, I just chose a simple template that would highlight the picture. Fast forward a few years and a lot of research, I decided I wanted a larger and more creative font. I came across Ida of Amygdala Art, a designer with a striking portfolio, and asked her put her touch on the words.  I hope you enjoy the new design and the story behind the image.
 
 

Her eyes are closed as she reflects on her past, so that it will not affect the dreams of her future. The colors represent her journey of emergence from darkness to the light. Her shoulder is bared as a symbol of the naked truth that has saved her. Her beauty mark matches that of her grandmother and reminds her that she has the strength and support of her family. She delights in the beauty of the butterfly. She relates to its humble and lowly beginnings. Once moving slowly and crawling on the ground, with its life at the mercy of its surroundings and at risk of being trampled. Then suddenly, hidden away to be broken down and transformed into a new being. The struggle to break free is strengthening its wings, so that it may take to the sky. She had to die, so that she could fly. 

 

Monday, June 8, 2015

Magic Wings

 
Life has taken me away from the keyboard for awhile, but I'm finding my way back! I haven't had much energy left lately. My Little Butterfly takes it all. That's what I called my daughter during her stay in Intensive Care.  She was a preemie and always swaddled up in her blanket, like a cocoon. She blossomed quickly and became a favorite among the staff with her funny faces and bright smile. Her personality is BIG! We are grateful for the wonderful care she received and recently braved the hot sun to attend the yearly reunion for family and staff. It was held at The Museum of Life and Science in Durham, NC. I was melting in the outdoor tent setting and sought refuge in one of  my favorite places, the Magic Wings Butterfly House. The exotic flowers and mist from the sprinklers make it a tropical rainforest paradise.  It was heavenly when the butterflies surrounded us. Anyone who knows me should be able to tell you that when two of them landed on my butterfly's carriage, I was super ecstatic. I felt a sense of renewal and rebirth while I was there, much like the life of a butterfly. It gave me the zeal to start talking about the Kindle Version of my book, The Divorcée Chronicles. You can probably guess what is on the cover. Take a look. I hope to talk to you more in the coming weeks, but for now....back to looking through butterfly pictures!